LIES About Adult FRIENDSHIP And The TRUTH You Need To Hear | The Mel Robbins Podcast

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A survival guide to adult friendship: how to find your people, have more fun, and create meaningful #friendships as an adult.

This is the topic you and everyone else are thinking about.

From making new friends to staying connected to your old ones, to the thing that’s really hard: what do you do when your friendships start to fade?

This is something I’ve been dying to talk to you about because I am right here, shoulder to shoulder with you, feeling lonely, left out, and wondering… Where did all my friends go?

I know I’m not the only one because when I do see my #friends or meet someone new, everyone is talking about how they never see their friends anymore.

Let’s fix that.

I spent a lot of time reflecting on the things that I’m doing that keep me from putting myself out there (which I know I need to do) and did extensive research on the topic.

What I discovered is both comforting and empowering. I can’t wait to share it with you.

I can boil all of this research down to the 5 lies you and I tell ourselves about friendship.

These lies are keeping you from having the best relationships of your life.

That’s why you need to hear them.

So did I.

You also need to hear the truth bombs I’m dropping and the smarty pants research I found to back it all up.

Because once you stop repeating these lies, your life will open up again.

You’ll have an easier time finding, making, and strengthening your relationships with friends.

And most importantly, your friendships will align with who you really are and what you really want in this chapter of your life.

Today it’s just you and me, friend to friend, figuring sh*t out together.

So let’s go.

Xo Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The 5 lies you tell yourself about friendship
- 5 truths you need to tell yourself instead
- What I learned once I stopped telling myself these lies
- Why it’s so hard to make friends once we’re out of school
- The text from my friend Brendan Burchard that shook me awake
- A new way to think about your BFF
- Why a 4 AM friend is all you need
- The belief that turns you into a people-pleaser
- 3 practical, life-changing tools to help you make friends

Timecodes:
03:18 - Why is making friends as an adult so hard?
4:52 - There are 5 lies that keep you from having friendships you deserve
7:44 - Lie #1: Everyone’s life is a huge party
16:52 - Lie #2: I don’t fit in/people don’t like me
19:45 - Research: “The Liking Gap”
25:34 - Lie #3: Best friends don’t need to last forever
33:08 - Lie #4: You can’t be everybody’s friend
35:19 - Lie #5: I’m too busy
42:43 - Tool #1: Friends for a reason, season, lifetime
47:46 - Tool #2: You NEED to take action and get out of your own way
48:17 - Research: How many hours it takes to make a friend
57:39 - Tool #3: Send a text to someone, they want to hear from you

Listen to the #podcast episode "Why Is Adult Friendship So Hard? 5 Lies You Tell Yourself & the Truth You Need to Hear" - https://link.chtbl.com/DAinFkFf?sid=ep9_description

#adultfriendship #relationships

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