Though many men have secret desire to indulge in bondage sex, many do not know how to discuss this with their partner and coerce them to indulge in it willingly. There is a lot of misconception about bondage sex and many women equate it to highly violent and abusive form of sex. Many women are practically hesitant to indulge in bondage sex, though few women have sexual fantasy about bondage. If you are among the men who is struggling to break the ice, we give below useful tips to discuss bondage with your partner.
Start as a suggestion, never force
Show her some erotic story or some porn video that shows the kind of bondage sex that you are keen to try. Ask her how she feels about it. This will help you plant the seeds of bondage sex in the mind of your partner. You can slowly open the topic and discuss when you are sure that she is comfortable. But never, ever force her to a bondage sex without knowing her comfort level, both physically and mentally.
Clear misconceptions
When you feel that your partner shivers at the idea of bondage sex, know that her mind is loaded with misconceptions about it. Bondage isn’t just about whips, chain, domination and pain. There are lots of safe and painless tools for beginners such as silk scarves and soft handcuffs that can be tried comfortably. You should dispel misconceptions about bondage sex and to make her understand that it is actually a hyper-romantic way to improving the pleasure experienced during lovemaking and strengthening the bond.
Start small
Make sure you are not starting something hard and intimating straightaway. It is important that both partners find it comfortable during the act. So, start something with simple and non-intimidating things at first and see how your partner responds with each move. As you both find it comfortable, you both can move on to next levels such as using blindfolds, restraints and steel handcuffs. You need to start with silk accessories, to leather and then steel as you both are finding the going comfortable.
You start first
Be the first to initiate bondage with your partner. Remember, your partner may be little hesitant to indulge initially. So, you need to start first and calm your partner down. You can start like, “I want you to blindfold me” or “spank me tonight as I wanted to experience how it feels before spank you”. When your partner takes up dominant role, he or she would be ready to don submissive role as well.
Bondage Safety Tips
Bondage sex can be extremely fun but can be dangerous as well. While bondage can help couples enjoy much deeper and powerful orgasm, it can also lead to bleeding injuries, nerve damage and even permanent disability, potentially death due to asphyxiation. So, it is important to follow safety tips thoroughly when you want to enjoy bondage sex.
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