Mastery Mondays

“Surround Yourself with Positive People Who Believe in Your Dreams. Distance yourself from negative people who try to lower your motivation and decrease your ambition. Create space for positive people to come into your life. Surround yourself with positive people who believe in your dreams, encourage your ideas, support your ambitions, and bring out the best in you.” ― Roy T. Bennett

Have you ever heard the saying, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with"? This concept suggests that the people we surround ourselves with greatly influence our thoughts, behaviors, and ultimately shape who we become. While it may sound like a mere anecdote, there is scientific evidence to support this idea, particularly through the phenomenon of neural synchronization.

In this article, I will explore the fascinating concept of neuroplasticity and delve into the importance of social connections in shaping our brains. Our minds are constantly forming new connections and reshaping themselves, thanks to a process called neuroplasticity.

Every experience, conversation, and learning moment strengthens the synapses in our brains. Let's take a closer look at how these connections are formed and the profound impact our social interactions have on our neural synchronization.

Neural Synchronization

Neural synchronization refers to the coordinated activity of neurons in different regions of the brain. Research suggests that people within a specific group tend to become more similar over time, from their outward appearance to the functioning of their brains. Just like spending time with a close friend who shares similar interests, our brains synchronize with those around us.

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The Impact of Social Connections

According to Matthew Lieberman, a renowned social neuroscientist, our brains are wired for socializing. They have evolved to thrive on connections with others, which greatly impact our well-being and personal development

Our social interactions play a crucial role in shaping our brain's neural synchronization. As social beings, our need for socializing is considered a primary necessity, similar to basic needs such as eating and sleeping. The regions of our brain that process the pain of social isolation overlap with those responsible for physical pain, highlighting the significance of social connections in our lives.

Hyperscanning

Researchers use a method called hyperscanning to study neural synchronization. This technique enables them to investigate the coordinated brain activity of multiple individuals engaged in activities such as attending concerts, watching movies, or playing team sports. Hyperscanning has revealed that social bonding and collaboration enhance neural synchronization, particularly in tasks that require cooperation.

How does Hyperscanning work?

The Importance of Selective Social Connections

As we synchronized with the people we spend time with, I think being mindful of the sources of information we consume and the people we interact with is crucial. The origin of knowledge and the individuals we spend the most time with significantly influence how our brains reshape themselves.

Surrounding ourselves with positive and constructive individuals can aid us in developing similar behavior patterns. Conversely, negative and destructive relationships can have the opposite effect. Therefore, periodically evaluating the impact of the people we engage with and the content we consume is essential for maintaining a healthy and supportive social circle.

Supporting Our Goals

Building connections with successful, motivated, and like-minded individuals can help us take responsibility for our lives, become proactive, and shape our future. Engaging with individuals who are positive, solution-oriented, and emotionally intelligent can have a significant impact on our well-being and personal development.

Exercise: Shaping Your Ideal Self

Take a moment to reflect on the following questions:

1. What kind of person do you want to be?
2. Who is your ideal self? What qualities do you aspire to possess?
3. Now, consider the five people you currently spend the most time with
4. Describe each person's three most important qualities
5. Next, evaluate whether these individuals align with the person you want to become. Are their qualities similar to the person you want to be? Do they support you or pull you away from your own goals? Do they lift you up or bring you down?
6. Who are the top 5 people whose qualities you desire?

The person who has already achieved your desired state or the goal you want to achieve might be someone famous or a general person, someone outside of your friend or social circle, or someone who can be alive or deceased.

7. How can you communicate more with them?

If this person is someone close to your circle, how can you spend more time with them and engage in shared activities? Or if they are a celebrity, a writer, or someone from history, what resources can you consume to gain knowledge about their life and way of thinking?

Can you read or listen to the works of this person? Or if you have already done so, can you consume that information from a new perspective after this section, such as through their music, art, or books? Some studies suggest that being exposed to these materials is similar to interacting with these individuals.

Conclusion

Our brains are profoundly influenced by the social connections we cultivate. By understanding the concept of neural synchronization and being selective about the people we surround ourselves with, we can shape our thoughts, actions, and ultimately our lives. Remember to regularly assess the impact of your social interactions and align yourself with individuals who support your goals and values. By doing so, you can harness the power of social connections to lead a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

Personal Change

What area of your life would you like to improve in and is your current circle of friends helping you or harming you in this area?