There are times when people wake up and go on with their monotonous lives without realizing that they are falling out of love with the person they are with. Admitting that your love is no more can be hard but accepting it can be even harder. It can be difficult to grasp a concept so common and yet so rare in a world people built of love.
People find it hard to accept that falling out of love can be just as random as falling in love. You fall in love for various reasons. For some, it is because they’re lonely and want to have somebody by their side to be intimate with. They feel lacking and although they have friends, they don’t realize that they’re content with the relationships they already have until they have another person to be with. They soon realize that they don’t need that new love after all. Falling in love for the wrong reasons can make you fall out of love sooner than you think.
It is very common nowadays to make the mistake of falling in lust or in like instead of actually falling in love. But once that desire burns out and you satisfy your wants, you immediately fall out of love. Of course, the couple doesn’t realize that they’ve fallen in lust until responsibilities and commitment gets in the way. When you get married with the person you thought you truly love, it will feel like heaven until the expectations arrive, the goals unmet, the kids take over and the in-laws control your lives, and finances kick in. Married life can be fun but it will be hard as hell to maintain it when you realize how great the responsibilities are.
In some cases, when you truly love your partner, you don’t just simply fall out of love. Either one or the both of you allow your relationship to die. A plant can be a metaphor for your relationship. You have to give it sunlight and water to help it grow just as you have to give romance and care to your relationship in order for it to blossom.
Romance is vital to every marriage. When one is unhappy, it will spread like a virus and make his or her partner unhappy too. Sometimes, you’ll hear a man or woman saying they want to end the relationship just because they don’t feel like the way they used to towards their partner. Romance keeps the love alive in your marriage; it doesn’t hurt to show your affection to your partner once in a while.
Other times, the couple simply grows apart. Change is inevitable and people will always change. Sometimes, you’ll realize that the both of you no longer like the same things and find yourselves always opposing each other. When you can no longer live up to your partner’s expectations or vice versa, the best solution is just to let each other go.
If you think your partner has fallen out of love with you or you are with him or her, try to determine which of the abovementioned reasons has caused the crack in your relationship. Bringing the romance back or seeking professional help may just save your marriage.
Romance can be a helpful nudge to the right direction for your relationship. If you want your marriage to last a lifetime, it helps to make special efforts on a regular basis. Plan something nice for your anniversary or take your partner out for dinner on normal days. Better yet, cook for your partner and relive a special date in the past. When your partner realizes that you’re taking special measures to nurture your relationship, he or she will be motivated to do the same and eventually, you will be confident you or your partner is not falling out of love anytime soon.
Falling in love is glorious, but making it last for a lifetime isn’t so easy. Why do some couples fall out of love but not others — and what can you do to prevent it? Experts weigh in below.
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