So what stops people from being honest, open and willing to be vulnerable – that is, share their heartspace? The big fear most people grapple with is that “if you know what I’m really like, you won’t like me, let alone love me!” They (often unconsciously) fear rejection and/or abandonment if they reveal too much about themselves. Many people are so convinced that this fear is true that they don’t dare reveal themselves even to their loved ones. They fear they are unlovable and this fear can present in many ways that are not immediately obvious.