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What To Do When Life Feels Chaotic
The opposite of peace is chaos.
And when we live in a state of chaos, day in and day out, we begin to burn out.
No matter who you are or what your life looks like, stress is a universal thing we all deal with. Some of our stress is self inflicted, and lots of it is not.
So what do you do when life feels too chaotic?
Well, first things first, it’s important to recognize that we CAN control certain aspects of how chaotic our life feels.
Here is a very basic idea that is important to remember: everything you say “yes” to means that you are saying “no” to something else.
Think about this example: you decide to add piano lessons to your schedule for your children. You are saying “yes” to the piano lessons - the driving, the scheduling, the practising, etc.
You are also saying “no” to something. You are saying “no” to that time that maybe you (or your kids) needed for rest, or catch up, or meal prep, etc.
That’s where the balance lies - in recognizing that even really wonderful things like piano lessons often cause us to say “no” to more peace in our lives.
Sometimes it is valuable to take a step back from your life and ask yourself if you’ve been saying “yes” to too many things. Maybe it’s time to scale it back for a time and start saying “yes” to less so that you can add some peace into your life.
Like I said earlier, sometimes our stress and chaos is not by our hand, but in our lap…meaning that we did not cause it but we have to deal with it. In those circumstances, we have less control over the chaos.
But that is where it is equally as important to remember that everything you say “yes” to means that you are saying “no” to something else.
Think about it this way: if you end up with chaos in your life because a family member falls ill, that is not stress/chaos that you created; however, even in those circumstances, everything you say “yes” to means that you are saying “no” to something else.
You might start saying “yes” to spending more time with that family member, without scaling back all the other commitments in your life. That means that you are saying “no” to important time in your life that allows you more time with loved ones, time to breathe, relax, sleep, rest, etc.
I guess the moral of the story is that there are LOTS of circumstances in our lives that cause chaos, but we still have the ability to make our own choices about what we say “yes” to and what that inherently means we are saying “no” to.
If you want more peace, start saying “yes” to more time for peace and start saying “no” to all the busyness that causes the chaos.
Interesting Fact #1
Peace is important because it brings about happiness and reduces stress in society.
Interesting Fact #2
Stress can be positive ("eustress") -- such as a getting a job promotion or being given greater responsibilities -- keeping us alert and ready to avoid danger.
Interesting Fact #3
Forty-three percent of all adults suffer adverse health effects from stress.
Quote of the day
"It's all about finding the calm in the chaos." -Donna Karan
Article of the day - 10 Simple Ways To Have A Less Chaotic, Happier Life
10 Simple Ways To Have A Less Chaotic, Happier Life
1. Declutter
The simplest and the most effective way to minimise distraction – is to declutter.
The fewer material things you have, the less clutter you’ll have mentally too.
2. Wake Up Early
Avoid those rushed morning schedules that get your day off to a bad start.
- Wake up earlier.
- Enjoy first light.
- Meditate.
- Focus on priorities.
You’ll feel calmer and relaxed as you start your day.
3. Let Go
Let go of things that don’t spark joy.
Throw away or donate these items that you no longer wear, need, use or want.
Start with an easy, quick win, that will motivate you to keep going. Start with your:
- wardrobe
- pantry
- living room
- spare room
- garage or
- bathroom.
4. Eat Healthily
This is a very common goal at this time of year.
Think about how to feed your body well. Research foods that help with any illnesses or ailments you have. Eliminate junk food from your diet.
5. Shop Less
If you’re a bit of a shopaholic, think about WHY you shop so much. Boredom? The fear of missing out? perhaps it’s your social escape?
Shopping can’t solve your problems, and often adds to them if you are buying items that you really don’t need or want. Save your money and your time by focusing on some more positive habits.
6. Make Time For Important Things
Forget the I should, I wish, I really want to …. statements and start doing.
- Read to your children more.
- Spend quality time with your grandchildren.
- Phone your friend.
- Visit your relative and go for a walk.
- Exercise to lose weight.
- Start taking action.
7. Don’t Overcommit
Overcommitting kills simplicity. You can try to:
- Block out quiet time for yourself
- Say no
- Plan your day more efficiently.
8. Allow Yourself To Rest
Some might think that doing nothing is a bad thing but setting aside a little R&R can do wonders for your well-being.
It’s important to:
- recharge your batteries
- relax and enjoy the moment
- take some time to reset after a stressful day.
9. Travel Light
Ladies, what’s in your handbag? Clean it out and only carry necessities.
What does the inside of your car look like? If it’s littered with take-away food items and general rubbish then it’s time to clear it out.
What do you take to work each day? Do you need to be lugging everything to and fro? Is there a better alternative?
If you try to carry less things with you on a daily basis you will feel less burdened.
10. Pay Attention
Attention is a valuable possession.
Give your attention to who and what deserves it.
Avoid giving too much of it to time-wasters (toxic relationships) or time-wasting activities (social media, school mom chit-chat in the playground).
Enjoy making changes and living a less chaotic, happier life.
Question of the day - Do you believe that you can control how chaotic your life feels? Why or Why not?
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Do you believe that you can control how chaotic your life feels? Why or Why not?
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