Truth & Character Thursdays

Achieve balance through the combined conscious states of the heart and mind.

Heart vs. mind, feelings vs. reason, affection vs. morals, they don’t always go hand in hand. As a matter of a fact, I have noticed over and over people struggling to take decisions when their heart wants something that their mind doesn’t necessarily agree with.

I myself, have gone through quite the experiences where I’m torn between taking the unsafe/adventurous/spontaneous path guided by my heart, and following the logic pattern according to my mind.

It all changed couple months ago, when I started synchronizing both, and pushing both to agree on the same thing. I have found myself in a situation where my heart was so passionate about a certain thing, but in my mind it seemed like a path full of stones, obstacles and struggle.

This struggle between the reckless and safe pushed me to reflect upon the possibilities. In life there is no right or wrong, there’s only different paths, but to get to where I want I have to analyze the whole situation. Now my words might sound absurd up until now, but this is all part of the confusion that I was experiencing. I’m a big believer in being the exception to the rule. I see most of human struggles as a mind-trap constructed and seemingly impossible to solve due to years and years of standards and beliefs built by society. And I’d like to believe that this is one of them. I might be wrong. But it was the starting point for me to consider the idea of breaking the rule.

If we stick to the superficial, simple understanding of emotions and being emotional, it will be hard to find balance. Apart from the usual sadness, happiness, anger, disappointment that follows a certain event, there are a ton emotions or mix of the previous mentioned emotions that we experience but don’t really give it much thought. When a woman is acting emotional, when a man is frustrated, when someone acts some way that doesn’t directly makes sense to us or to their own-selves, we brush it off, we ignore it. We assume that feelings don’t and shouldn’t always make sense. Whilst they make ALL THE SENSE. Emotions are a the result of a build-up process. I’d even go as far as saying that emotions are the truest aspect of our existence.

Think about it, since Einstein discovered relativity, every information deducted by a logic reasonable process has become subject of refutation. However, human emotions represent the non material aspect of the whole universe, (whether you believe in the term “soul” or not). To feel is such a unique action, that shouldn’t be reduced to non-sense. “Non-sense” is a word among a lot of words used to dismiss people’s feelings.

I believe “Everything can be explained. But we can’t explain everything.” That is our struggle with emotion. Just because we can’t understand it, with the means we have now, doesn’t mean it doesn’t make sense.

Onto the heart & brain dilemma. First of all, do not assume they go against each other. If you believe you’ll find the right path, both will come hand in hand to get you where you want. Second, ANALYZE! What makes you heart want that exact thing so much? Where do this emotions come from? Is it something you’ve always wanted? Is it your dream? Does it make you happy? Weight the pros and cons. Why do you apprehend that decision? If you go with the safe path will it bring you heart peace? If you take the spontaneous decision does it make sense to give it your all? Where does it all stand when it comes to your principles?

I’m fully convinced that answering those questions honestly, will give out the important answer. When there are 2 or more paths, there is no wrong, but there is the best, and you can only recognize the best if you are honest with yourself when it comes to your principles, to what matters the MOST to you, to what you are ready to endure and also if you’re aware of your boundaries. (Boundaries are so very important, but it is a complete different topic).

My advice to you, be true to yourself. It is totally okay to be confused, but once you step into a path, give it your all. It is okay to fail. It’s okay if that path eventually doesn’t get you where you want to be. But I guarantee you this, one of 2 things will happen: either you‘ll reach your target, or you’ll learn invaluable lessons (if not both).

Human Nature

Do you tend to make decisions easily, or is it harder for you?